The typical arrange marriage may help you to find your soul-mate, but of course terms and conditions apply.
Men have many options when it comes to finding a girl as they can either be working or non -working women. Sadly, girls don’t have many options as their families follow the informal rule i.e. unemployed boys are not eligible for marriage. Although it’s sadder for unemployed boys. Some girls and parents don’t search for an unemployed groom.
Age is a major factor. It plays an important role and this is why society always forces you to marry at an early age i.e. before turning 28. Boys once again have the advantage because they can marry any girl younger to them. She can be of the same age or less/ more years younger to them. But girls, once again have not much option. The informal rule of searching a groom is must be either of the same age or always elder. When the girl turns nearby age 30, then she is left with few choices. Because most of the men are already married. On the other hand, she is not allowed to marry the ones younger than her.
Sadly, people don’t search for a disabled partner. They always look for healthy soul-mate. The disabled ones get along with the disabled partners. Few great couples have ignored the health issues, disability and are living happily. When it comes to arrange marriage, people don’t think of a disabled person. They don’t accept the ones who have certain health issues. Almost everyone wants a partner who is healthwise perfect.
Caste System Box
Ah-Uh !!! Hardly anyone got fair luck here. Finding a partner in the same caste is like you only have limited edition. There is religion, then there are castes and there-there are subcastes and then there are surname criteria.
The boy-side family usually looks for a responsible girl. It is clearly mentioned on their matrimony profile, the girl must be able to take care of mainly his side family & if needed her side family too. The girl must have the superpowers to manage all the family responsibilities. But the typical girl-side family never mentions in search of a responsible boy who can take responsibilities of both the families.
Racism is all it got. The only search is to look for the fair partner or someone who is good -looking. Shopping dresses can be of different colors but skin color must be fair. Men’s looks can be ignored but girls are expected to be fair.
Even if you have good -looking face, size always matters !!!
Weak body look will not be useful. One should be body-built up attractive enough. Your body size is measured 😛 Underweight or overweight will have a bad time fitting into this size box.
Boys can find any girl shorter than them because the girl side family always look for boys taller than her. But, tall girls have got a limited option. The society rule says, they cannot marry anyone shorter than them.
It is important to match the financial status as the standard of living matters in arrange marriage. Especially, the men’s salary slip must be high. They should have a good amount of property preserved for future partner. Nowadays, even girls are expected to earn a good amount of salary. So, either way, financial status, and standard of living is another important factor.
There are exceptions who don’t have to unwrap the arrange marriage boxes. These exceptional people fall under the lucky box. Actually, it’s rare to have a lucky box in one go. The only box where none of the above things matter. What matters here is the person’s behavior. Families only search for a person’s behavior and accept the way they are.
These are the boxes usually found in typical Indian families arrange marriage. But, I am sure there are people:
who have accepted disabled;
who have accepted the one with health illness;
who have considered no one is ugly, everyone is beautiful ;
who did not care about the size and height;
who broke the rules of age barriers;
who have accepted a person (who) is yet to learn responsibilities;
who did not care about the financial status and hence, the standard of living.
In the 21st century, it’s time we stop finding a partner in the form of recruiting an employee. Relationship and Profession are two different things. Hence, we should not choose a partner based on job, salary, and properties. I would suggest choose someone without judging the numbers on the pay slip.
So, did you unwrap any of those boxes to find your partner? If not then you can share your experience in the comment.
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