The word “Victim” that used to give goosebumps to us because it’s many times a highlighted news shown in the media, is now being contemplated as a piece of stale news. Once born as a female, no matter what role you play as a person, every female has to go through lots of challenges thrown at her in normal routine life. Rape itself is a big thing and unbearable trauma. But, is the lady who did not face rape in her life is having a safe life? Not at all !!
A woman goes through many kinds of inappropriate physical abuse. Irrespective of locality and surrounding area: given several circumstances, females are not safe enough . Even a place with several people around, we cannot call it safe. It’s quite difficult for females to share such things with anyone.
While traveling in public transport vehicles, random man touches or pinches ladies. Many times men stare at women terribly & also murmur filthy words. We come across gross men who make unethical gestures towards any women. The other co-passengers are aware of these moments, but no one bothers to take any action against such culprits. Hardly any girl takes instant action against the attacker. Since, an unexpected physical abuse naturally makes the women blank for a while and sometimes scared too. It takes time for victims to give instant reaction as whatever happens is unexpected and unbearable. Few women can react instantly. Almost all the time, these culprits are the ones who are about to get down to the nearest stop or the one who escapes easily because of crowd in a vehicle. This, in turn, makes difficult to identify the attacker.
Once I attended the seminar wherein one of the HR Manager of the leading IT company was giving the lecture on random topics. Public present at the seminar expected him to talk about the education but whatever he spoke was utterly exaggerated. One of the topics he discussed was about the cab facility and night shift jobs. Many of us have heard the kidnap/rape incidences related to girls traveling in office cabs. He was explaining why girls face those incidences. His disagreeable thoughts astonished the audience.He concluded that girls provoke themselves to such steps. He blamed girl’s clothes & girl’s independent behavior. He also mentioned some girls sometimes ask cab drivers to drop at locations apart from given house address. This indirectly allows cab drivers to plot a plan of kidnapping her & rape.
I believe it is pathetic to blame a girl. Moreover, companies must recruit good cab drivers and train them moral values.
Apart from other vehicles, is traveling by a two-wheeler safe? Not completely safe. The men and the boys on the bike or vans overtake the girls riding a bike. When she tries to escape, there are chances of she getting hurt due to high speed or they harming her in any form. Even a girl walking on the road is not safe. The bikers may attack and vans may kidnap these girls.
There are many cases related to molestation at home, brutally beaten and killed by their own family members. Education can try to save such things to a great extent. Yes, we find some educated people doing wrong things. But, we can teach majority of educated men to do the right things.
When the girl shares similar incidences with elder people, they land up with the same pieces of advice: “Wear full-dress, it’s your mistake. You should have done something. Be a simple girl.”
It is high time, we stop blaming all girls. Not all girls have bad intentions. Similarly, we can try to bring good intentions amongst all men.
All we can do is a try to live in a safer zone as much as possible. We shall not restrict ourselves from riding or walking just because someone can do something wrong to us. Families should teach their sons to respect all women. It is not possible to educate every man regarding this, but we can try to reach out to as many men as possible. At least in this way, some part of the world will be better to live for women.
Research data proves that a way a person dresses and /or acts do not influence the rapist’s choice of victims. Every next hour new rape cases happen in the world. Sadly, more than (Approx.) 50% of rape cases are not even reported. You can find research work on this topic on Google. There are many links showing the PDF files or detailed information.
We should carry programs related to mind control for men. There is a need for change in an education system. There should be a subject or special guest lectures being arranged at every school & villages every year or after every few months. It should be related to how the girls should make them strong enough and fight against such circumstances as well as the boys must learn how to respect girls.