Bullying has taken away many lives and the ones who survive live with it’s memories daily. Whether bullying happens in childhood or adulthood, it’s hard to wash away such memories.
A person can move on and live a normal life but the past images & bullied words keep popping in mind at any time. The subconscious stores this unwanted memory affecting the person’s mental health. It is not easy to live with this trauma. We have mental health centers which will help us to wipe off these unwanted memories. We can notice an awareness program are being set up in many countries. Even though we have help centers, life does not get easy for everyone. We need to Stop Bullying as a first step to end this cruelty.
Whether it is for a child, adult, or animals, bullying should be prohibited everywhere and for everyone in the world. Bullying is not only experienced by the weaker ones, even stronger ones face it. Imperfection does not invite bullies to one. It does not matter how Good Or Strong Or Perfect You Are, there is someone jealous at you which makes them bring you down.
Some of the research studies result depicts, people who bully others are actually going through or seeing bad things at home or other surrounding places. The truth is whatever the reason might be, people need to observe such bulliers/bullies and teach them the right lessons on the right time. We can teach them lessons in a polite manner. We need to be politer at first conversation, because these bulliers/bullies have the behavior of going against you.
According to psychology, the one who bullies is already exposed to these type of acts. They learn these things from the family or other group of friends. Sometimes the bad attitude can change them into this evil personality. For this reason, parents and care-takers need to track the attitude of children. Parents should avoid fighting in front of kids. A dominating parent will have wrong impressions on the kid’s mental development. The victim and the bullier/bullies both require mental health assistance.
Basically, there are four categories of Bullying :
This involves making fun of a person name or calling the person with different disrespect words. Threatening, nasty or hurtful comments, racial slurs and rude remarks passed on the person. To other people, Verbal bullying may sound easy to forget by the victim but it is not. It impacts on victim’s life. An individual begins believing that he/she is worthless. They lose the self-confidence which affects their student and career life. Some sensitive students will live in the fear throughout life. There is a probability to develop anxiety at an early age.
Spreading rumors or gossiping are one of the worse things that happen at student life. This can happen with anyone at any age in any surrounding. The behavior of leaving a person out during the group fun time or ignoring often can affect person’s emotions. When the person’s reputation is diminished, it is difficult to come out of home everyday. There is a fear that everyone will continue to look at an individual in a negative response. It is possible for this person to lose friends , when the friends believe the rumors. The person can feel badly betrayed, when he/she finds out that friends are involved in gossiping about him/her. Usually, most of the teenagers and college students fall under this category. It can harm the emotional balance of the victim in a way that some victims choose to suicide.
Slapping, Punching, Hitting, Kicking, Pulling hairs and hurting brutally. Such actions can have scars and injuries. Facing injuries and unwanted physical hurt frequently, changes the person. He/She will be scared to go back to the place. They will be living in the physical pain. The fear and the pain, together affects the mental health. While many in this category plan to give up on their life, there are some who may not give up on life. Survivors will not give up on life but will live with the traumas memories every day.
When an individual receives nasty messages and disgusting emails, he/she is disturbed. When they notice their photos are being misused and edited in an inappropriate manner, they lose self esteem. When the private messages are made public by someone else, they lose self respect. Overall, when the person gets bullies through Internet networks, he/she will hate him/herself. In today’s era, when the whole world is dependent on social network site, any kind of inappropriate misuse can affect the person’s emotional status for years or forever.
Victims can go through one or more types of above-mentioned bullies. It is the duty of parents, teachers, and people around the kids to observe if they are suffering from mental stress. Parents should try to have conversation with kids frequently to know if their child is facing any kind of bullying act. Most kids don’t want to hurt their parents with their problems. Hiding it, can lead to different issues. Families and friends of adults should also look after the adult victim. On the other hand, it is the duty of everyone not to fight or abuse in front of kids as this is how kids learn to harm other kids and they grow up with these qualities.
Did you ever experience Bullying? What kind of bullying you faced? Feel free to share your story in brief in the comment box. You can share any tips related to overcoming Bullying in the comment box.
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