Often all of us, either use or come across the phrase, “Men are Men”. This is misinterpreted by many people that all men are the same.
Do we all believe that all men are the same? Perhaps, no, it cannot be true.
Well, do not misunderstand the title. “Not all Men are Men” does not imply that some of them are gay. It has nothing to do with gender discrimination. We are going to solely anchor it on the better men around us.
Men are animals.
We have heard the line,” Men are animals.” Why does one use this statement? What made us believe it?
Even the normal day for the women is not easy to pass by without the thoughts. The thoughts of how much safe, she is with the men she faces for the day. Irrespective of the age, women have to be aware and alert of the men walking around her. We don’t know when women will feel safe throughout the world. Until then, we have to be alert, but let’s not blame the ones who don’t deserve it.
She is an Apple.
We know this saying, ‘When women enter the office, she is an apple for all the hungry men. Every man would plan of flirting with her.‘ Are we using the right word “every man“? Some won’t be interested in you or may not even have any evil thought of hurting you in any way. In a similar way, wherever we go, we find many such incidences. It is indeed disappointing to come across such men. I myself have faced plenty of situations from childhood to the working place, enough to give trauma times. We cannot safely use any public transport service. We undergo so many things and we hear the stories of victims in the news. We hear the stories in our own circle of families or friends.
I think sometimes we need to take breaks from these negative thoughts. We need to put some relief on ourselves. Statistics! Look at the statistics. The number of population versus the number of bad events happened & created by men. The number of men troubled you in public transport versus the one who did not. The number of men working with you who behaved friendly and good with you. The reverse case is that men are now facing sexual assault in the corporate world. I won’t deny the reality, that we cannot just simply think in this way and avoid the real negative things happening around. At the same time, I do think we cannot change the world instantly, but we can appreciate the good men who have made us feel safe. We can be thankful to the ones who has protected us whenever required.
As much as we read the stories and hear the violent behavior of men in the newspaper and media, we tend to believe men are a highly domestic violent creature. I won’t say no for it. But, let’s look at the other side. When we look at the statistics from the rural areas to the urban ones, we see the ratio is not stagnant. While due to cultural conflicts, women tend to go through domestic violence, very rare cases of men also face the same from women. On the other hand, chances of a financially unstable man falling under any standard of a living category have to go through domestic violence too. Psychologically speaking, there is a possibility for men to deal with dominating and manipulating partner behavior. This type of behavior affects men’s mental health. With no gender discrimination, yes, even men are more prone to depression.
Men don’t have culinary skills.
Men don’t have culinary skills. Well, in the 20th century, we cannot agree with this anymore. Even in ancient history some of the men were good at cooking. In today’s time, quite a good number of men are exploring cooking skills. They are capable of taking care of their babies efficiently. They are capable of taking their wife and manage the home. They can manage job and family well. They contribute to their wife’s work by giving her less stress. Like single mothers, even single fathers are bringing up their children well. It will take time for Orthodox families to teach basic skills to their son and men. In the narrow-minded family, we can see that both men and women may not know cooking and managing home. Some are responsible and some are not. Some may develop skills over a period of time and circumstances.
Some people who know me closely may have tagged me as a feminist or rather a girl who supports only women power. But, that’s not the fact. I support all kinds of victims. I believe everyone should do the same. Irrespective of gender difference, we need to appreciate the ones who make us feel safe. We need to respect the ones who are doing things right. We need to support the ones, who deserve it well.
We don’t have to wait for Men’s day to thank them 🙂