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Chapter 2

PREVIOUS SERIES CONTENT:
OCD Is Not A Joke!
Chapter 1

 

As per Indian tradition in the early morning , women put rangoli in front of the house. Rangoli is an art form that is meant to produce positive energy for the home. The same tradition is being followed by my mother.

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A tradition turned into a nightmare. One of the ocd type is Scrupulousity OCD. Scrupulousity OCD involves deep religious thoughts. There is a fear of doing any mistake that will make the person angry their respective God/Goddess.  It disrupts their mind when anyone goes against their ritual methods. Even the Pandits, Father or any superior person of religion will not agree with this person’s rituals. Such people will keep doing different remedies of overcoming sins repeatedly. In Hindu, there are long duration of different pujas and havans. So, the person will keep doing such puja havans every now and then. This person will not pray to God without taking bath. Even if the bath is already taken but the visit to temple or prayer to God is after few hours then the person will once again take bath prior to it. Similarly, christain person may repeatedly visit the confession room. In Muslim, while washing hands before the prayer, the person will wash his/her hands multiple times to feel the purity.
These people have strong belief in black magic. There is a fear of people doing black magic for which they find ways to protect themselves from black magic. Person with Scruplousity OCD will love preaching about God and religion to others. They want everyone to believe in their principles ,their thoughts, their rituals and follow the same.
Normally, only on occasions big rangolis or colourful rangolis are made.
But in my family, my mother started making big rangoli as compulsion for daily routine. Normal people clean the area by sweeping or they just use some cloth to wipe off the floor. Following it, they  make simple and small or border rangolis. My mother used to do same.

How the repetation and behavior changed?

The next step, she did is that she made me put big rangoli for complete month on every festival. Indians have so many festivals by which one can know the number of days of we designing rangoli are higher. Then she changed to putting big rangoli daily.
Alongside, her rule was sweeping and mopping only one time before putting rangoli.
Then during festival months,   (sweeping , mopping and put rangoli) twice a day.
The next thing , she started hallucinating that neighbour is doing some black magic.
She imagined ,neigbour drops Kumkum -a red powder or Angar- a grey powder on rangoli. Then she thought someone coming in front of our door daily from neighbour’s house and doing black magic. This is completely her hallucination.

How it got mixed with OCD?

She started cleaning front door and front place with dry cloth then wet cloth. She swept and mopped floor before rangoli. She changed timings of a day of putting rangoli so that neigbour don’t do black magic. It was all in her mind but she made real rules based on her beliefs. Then she forced us to create a window in the passage which is closer to the neighbour window.

Next level is this :

She sweeps the floor then mops the small floor 10 times and then cleans the beside little stone bench and door then mops the floor again . Then she cleans window with dry cloth then with wet cloth. Then she mops floor. Once again, she sprinkles water on the floor and wipes the floor with another cloth. Overall, total 4 clothes and sweeping rod , mop rod, and a bucket full of water only for this small matter.
She does not take bucket used for cleaning inside house . Because, she thinks goddess will enter house. Hence, dirt should not come inside. Therefore, the bucket should be taken inside home later after hours. You may have got confuzzled with this stanza of repeatative tasks. Imagine the same lines are actually acted in real, the amount of stress that goes around in doing the same task excess of time.
Since , Rangoli is a form of art ,  one could take this task positively and do it daily but the amount of stress involved with the Scruplousity OCD is unbearable. We have to avoid neighbour contact and if neigbour step out then she will think that they did black magic . Even if they don’t step out , she will still assume same because of her hallucination.

As previously explained, there is a fear of what will god or goddess do.
For example, she makes it compulsion to  draw shree symbol in rangoli without fail.
Moreover, throughout the process of rangoli, she is panicked and in  angry mood. Hence, anything going wrong triggers  her to create a worse day for all . All these beliefs increased the hallucination and she decided to leave this place to get rid of neigbour ‘s black magic(unreal thing. ) My mother has done unbearable dramas at home for this simple things. Her mind does not accept breakage in this repeation process and anyone against her such hallucinated beliefs. This thing has broken the relationship with good neigbour. We can’t face them or talk to them because she has restricted us. If we do so, then she will create an unforgettable trauma for all.

Please note, this post has no intention of saying anything against any religions. It is based on the sources, that explain how it can involve different religions. It is more about the OCD person and less about a religion. It only shows how a strong abnormal belief reaches higher than normal belief of god or goddess and supernatural things.

Know the things:

There is a need to take precautions. Don’t take the pattern changes of your loved ones lightly because with the development of symptoms , things get uncontrollable. It will lead to inviting more mental disorder symptoms. Each task is repeated multiple times. The person does not do  the work all alone  but asks some family members to do it. Please note that the ocd person does not enjoy doing such stress work. This stress work also affects their emotions and they feel frustrated to do it and at the same time avoiding work will give them a breakdown. This drains energy, valuable time for all family members and acts as an obstacle for other work or self time. Doing unnecessary work daily turns into an unavoidable stress for everyone. Because of one person’s mental imbalance, other family memebers eventually get mentally affected.

Society does not accept such levels of OCD. My neighbours make fun of us . When I tried explaining them first time about her other mental disorder . They denied to accept the term, mental disorder and said, “Your mother is a weird person.”.

We can’t tell every outsider, what mental disorder is!
We can only try our best to aware the world about mental health through different mediums.

To conclude, if we have symptoms then we should accept and meet doctors for the diagnose and respective treatment. In the same way, we should be understanding towards our family member’s any mental disorder and insist them to take the treatment.

Tip :
“Believe in whatever you want, but know the fine line of balancing your belief.”

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Chapter 1

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Chapter 1

OCD Series: Chapter 1

Through this real story, you will understand why OCD (Obsessive-compulsive disorder) cannot be treated as a JOKE for everyone.

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Introducing my mother who has two types of OCD.
Neither she takes the treatment nor do my family agree to give her treatment. My father and sister never agreed to give her treatment. Over years, I tried convincing her parents and siblings, even they denied giving any help .No one in my family agreed to opt for her treatment because they thought what will society say if they come to know about her. On another hand, her behavior became a problem for the society itself and yet father and sister did not wanted to take any responsibility. I once went with her to a doctor wherein she did not know her mental check up will also be done. We went for mild health check up and doctor said she does have mental disorders.
In the OCD series, I will not talk about her other mental disorders.
I will explain the experiences of living with a OCD person . In what way, people living with OCD person as well as the OCD person should take the responsibility of curing. Additionally, this is not only a single person OCD symptoms. There are many people out there who seem to have similar behaviour.

The Normal Day:

1] Where ever we stay: a bungalow or an apartment, the front yard of the house or the front passage of the flat needs to be cleaned daily. Even if the place is already cleaned, sweepping then mopping is done early morning around 6a.m. or prior to it. The doors are again cleaned with dry and wet clothes. Throughout the day: if anyone visits home, we go outside and come back, any random person walking in the passage or a courier person or any one else steps in the front passage, then those many times the front yard is cleaned. At the end of day, again in evening the sweeping is done compulsory.
She does not do it all alone always. Sometimes she does it by herself and sometimes she orders me to do it. We cannot avoid this task. Because the consequences of ignoring her orders are not good. She can get very emotional and hurt. She may get violent and have a heated conversation with all the bad words. This simple thing can change into one of the bad days.

One needs to know how to behave with a patient. Although people don’t really use the word patient for the person who has OCD. It is important for everyone to understand the person with any mental disorder and behave with them carefully.

This is the difference between a normal person reaction and the OCD person. The motive is to achieve their task of cleaning and if it undone then it does not give them a peace of mind.

The pattern of doing such an unnecessary task  every day without fail can become an obstacle in other work or for other family members.

It may sound a simple thing but when put into an action 365 days for more than decades, that would mean wasting time.

Cleaning front passage is acceptable :

  • When it is dirty.
  • When there is any occasion and you want everything to look fresh.
  • Once in a day . At the most, twice a day.

Anything that goes beyond limit, needs an attention.

The OCD patient should learn the methods of listening to others especially the ones who love you.

Other people should not take the pattern of OCD person lightly. The earlier the treatment or counselling to change the daily habits, the easier it is to live the life for all.
Only one point [1] of Normal Day has been discussed in this chapter. The next points describing Normal Day will be added in the next chapter.

Have a great day 😊

Tip : “Stay clean, but don’t forget to enjoy. “

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OCD Is Not A Joke!

Chapter 2

Animals help, but humans don’t !

Animals help, but humans don’t !

Not all humans are bad. Humanity still exists. Helping is our nature.
But, is it our first instinct?

With the help of social media, we see a numerous post regarding the message saying,
”Help others.”

Why do we need such posts? Can’t we learn by ourselves like the way we have our senses?

We spread good helping videos and stories, so that people change into a good person.

Yes, we have put up the tag of good and bad person based on the behavior of a person.

Some people use the word animal for the person who attacks others.

Why only attacking is related to animals?

Animals are far better than us, humans.

Whenever any animal in the group falls somewhere, the whole group joins to help him/her.

Whenever any animal is being attacked by another one, the rest of the group tries to protect him/her.

The same does not happen in humans’ world.

Very few of us have the senses of helping others instantly.

To fight for others for the right thing, to protect others from violence is often a bravery thing.

Public can watch bad things happening to any person . It’s like an entertainment for many.

People take time to decide whether to help or not. They take time to see who helps first.
They wonder if they help, will they be caught in the situation.

There is an avoidance, hesitation, fear, ignorance, and carelessness to the situation.

The victim suffers a lot because of such late responses or no responses.

A Tortured Life

This heavy weight title immerses one into a wide range of imaginations and experiences. An unendurable pain, that one waits to be freed for a long time.

A TORTURED LIFE

Is the experience of torture counted based on the amount of time one goes through it?
A torture can vary from few minutes to a lifelong depending on the experiences.
Why being tortured is the worst thing that can happen to anyone?
Once the person is free from torture, can they live a better life again?
How is the post – torture life?
In what manner , the two words : Torture and Trauma are inter-related?
Any kind of tortured life occurs between two persons or between a person and a surrounding environment. Most of the times, it is observable that the person who tortures someone is enjoying the moment of seeing that person in a trouble. Torture is a form of abuse. On another hand, some people without moral ethics or the ones without good mentality tend to torture others unknowingly.  The chances of a victim escaping are less from the people who do not accept their heart-breaking actions. Apart from these contexts, there is another set of people who can easily feel tortured by anyone. Sensitive people can misunderstand other’s actions without logic. It is possible for them to feel tortured in their life for the things that may not even run in other people’s mind.

 

A trauma affects the people after particular events. Whereas a torture can be one time or a recurring action experienced by the victim. Depending on the level of tortures and its effects on the person, the life changes. Some people may begin to love a new life after taking certain treatments. One may move to another place and restart life. It is not possible for many people to live a life normally again. A consistent tortured life affects the person mentally and physically. Even a stronger person can slowly change into a weak person. Over a period of time, it won’t be possible for the brain to have a control over emotions despite of having a stronger personality.

The common symptoms that a victim goes through are:
(Note : The symptoms may vary depending on the person)

1]Heart- beat pounds

2] Headaches

3] Unreasonable anxiety

4] Unreasonable fear

5] Triggers to phobias

6] Slight sound hallucinations

7] 24/7 Alert mind

8] Depression

9] Hormonal Imbalance

10] PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)

11] Often Stressed

12] Nightmares

13] Sleep disturbances

14] A reduced memory grasping

15] Social withdrawal

16] Unstable Blood Pressure

 

The victim will lose an interacting skill. Few lose their confidence to speak with others. Some feel numb. While some victims lose interest to interact with anyone. They feel hopeless and hence, may fail to enjoy the good times.  This makes them avoid social mingling. Sometimes, the person may like to meet others. But, during the meetings, anxiety can have the chances of turning in.

After moving to another place away from the tortures, the life cannot be all easy. It takes time to adjust to the new beginnings. The person feels depressed and anxious. The emotions will have confusions. Even if the place is a favorite and free from troubles, the past moments flashes in the mind. A victim can often hear the same sounds of the tormentors, especially ,if the tormentor is /are family member/s. Sometimes the tormentors are extremely dependent on the victim. Because of a prolonged dependency, even if the victim looks out for an independent life, in post traumatic period, the life seems to be unbalanced.  Loneliness is the only best friend. The victim feels isolated in daily life. The things that made one happier before will no longer feel the same. Although at times, it is possible for the victim to be immensely happy for the little things.

Hearing any loud sound can make the heart pound. Since, the subconscious mind has stored enough of unpleasant memories, the person will have sleeping disorders. It is a sign of alert mind 24/7 .  A psychological stress affects the health in a severe way. An exhausting mind stress develops hormonal imbalance and gut dysfunctions. This leads to a multiple chronic physical illness. Even if the person has the capability to live an independent life, a psychological effects develops unreasonable fears in the person’s mind. The subconscious absorbs  the past events and shows the effects on emotions and physical health often. For this reason, an unpredictable sick times usually go un-diagnosed.

Medications can help the victim to stable the pressure levels, control the heart beats, reduce the anxiety, balance the hormones and thereby help with the physical sickness.

How can one help such victims?

  • Help to live separately from the tormentor.
  • Do not turn an blind eye to their sufferings.
  • LCH= Listen to their struggles, show Care but not sympathy  and Help them to live a better life

 

As a victim, how can you help yourself?

  • Change your life routine.
  • Try to learn something new.
  • Keep yourself busy but don’t get stressed.
  • Find and follow/apply  the methods to de-stress regularly.
  • No matter how low you feel, never miss a proper diet.
  • Ask for help, you may receive help from some corner
  • In severe cases, take medicines for mental health prescribed only by psychiatrist.

Believe yourself that the change is possible. Consider the past life as a different life chapter. Even though the past leaves effects in the present. Change is the only persistent . The more you think about changing your life and work towards it, things will eventually get better for you.

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What does anxiety and panic attack feels like?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Choice between parents and life-partner

If one begins to do a survey, the result will show up the number of families which don’t support  choice of life partner still exits on a bad number.

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Parents don’t accept the life partner of their children easily. They have issues with the caste, religion, racism, salary, etc.
Dear parents, don’t give choice of love. If you give a choice to choose between you and the life partner, then you are a bad parent.

As a good parent, one will only wish for the happiness of a child. If we notice that the life partner has certain bad qualities behavior wise, then we can discuss it with our children. Remember love is blind. Children don’t easily listen to the parent’s arguments in the first conversation, hence, it is always advisable to have conversations often. Tell them what things need to be set right but don’t fight with them or give them the hard choice.

Apart from bad behavior , the rest of the things should never matter. Falling in love is not always a logical thing. It is a complete emotional relationship. People who choose the right life partner often know what’s right for them. A lack of financial support can always be fulfilled together by both partners. A culture mix up can always be adjusted and enjoyed together. Moreover, you can always support them to make their life better rather than worse by going against them.

 

Programming Other’s Mind

You may have come across the meme,

”If you want to annoy someone, then repeat the same song that they don’t like. So that, the song gets stuck in their mind.”

If you want to annoy someone, then repeat the same song that they don’t like. So that, the song gets stuck in their mind.

It’s true , this works out almost all the times.

We can program other’s mind. Teachers do it daily. We can teach human beings or pets. We can relate this method to religions, communities, organizations, schools, offices, friends and families. Everything is connected internally. Each person’s act is perceived by the viewers either in different or same form. Hence, everything affects everything.

Programming Other's Mind

Programming someone else’s mind is beneficial to change the person for good. If someone has adopted bad habits, it is possible to change them. Yes, there are organizations to change the people. Apart from that, we can do it on a daily basis through daily conversations. Words have the ability to change the person’s thinking direction.

The same applies in curing the patient. Medicines, exercises and rest are recommended for any patient to recover. There are incurable diseases and disorders. But, there are certain diseases/disorders which are curable with long duration of treatments and therapy. Some patients give up sooner or later. Some patients do not have hopes of recovering ever. A hopeless person may fail to follow up therapies. Speaking positive thoughts with the patient can change him/her into a hopeful person. When the patient themselves are motivated by everyone, it is easier for them to take the efforts for their recovery. It is the best practice to program mind of the people suffering from anxiety, panic attacks, depression, or any mental stress because of traumatic events.

 

A positive atmosphere spreads the good vibes around everyone in the room. Similarly,  a negative atmosphere can spread the bad vibes. If there are a few members of family or any team suffering from anxiety, then it is possible for others getting affected later. When a group of people talk negative things every day , it has the effect on a positive person. When a positive person stays  around many negative people, the mind of a positive person will eventually get affected too. Not necessary for a positive person to have the same pattern of negative thoughts. But, emotionally, the person is affected to see so much of negativeness.

 

Manipulation is one of the negative skills of a programming mind. Manipulation can be used for good purposes. But, usually people use it for a negative aim. A person can manipulate another person by speaking negative thoughts about anyone or anything. We should always be able to make decisions and react based on our knowledge. Being manipulated by other person can have adverse consequences.

Another negative thing about programming mind is repeating the same story. When a person repeats an unpleasant story to someone almost every day, a listener begins to feel that this is own story. The one who tells the story feeds the story into the listener’s mind in such a way that it becomes the listener’s story. Unfortunately, negative stories make more impact compared to positive stories.

To heal our feelings, we need to share our secrets. It is a good thing to have someone always listening and giving advice to you. This may not work out well 100% time. When you get a habit of sharing everything about your day and thoughts on it with someone else, you let the person judge your day. There can be an exception, some people don’t judge. But, the ones who judge and analyze your day, tend to advise you. They stress on the things that may not be important for you. This leads to an overthinking mind. Another disadvantage of oversharing your secrets or thoughts is, you are not yourself anymore. You report about your life’s each moment to someone else and they decide things for you. This is not a healthy thing for your mind because it starts losing out the self- logical and self-emotional thinking power.

Programming other’s mind will work easily on those who get easily influenced. It will not work on stubborn people. Considering the people who are living with the same person consistently for a prolong time and the ones who are spending more time every day with the same person are more liable to change their mind.

To conclude, we are programmed from the very first day of our birth. We program ourselves daily by learning through the surroundings. Hence, it is possible to program anyone’s mind. We need to learn to whom we should believe. We should be capable of analyzing negative words in the form of not letting it affect our mind. Let others program you with the positive thoughts but do not let them frame a bad canvas in your mind.

5 Myths of Psychological Facts

Part 1 : 5 Myths of Psychological Facts

5 Myths of Psychological Facts

Not all psychological facts are true. Some are made up by the people. In Part 1 Post, I have listed out 5 common psychological facts which are not convincing.

When offered to write with a new pen, 97 % of people first write their own name .

This statement cannot prove the reality. When offered to write with a new pen, most people will scribble(usually scribble lines). They will check whether the pen writes or not. Another set of people will continue writing the sentence, they stopped earlier. (This is due to empty ink status of the previous pen.) Very few people will first write their name with a new pen.

What do you write first, when you are offered to write with a new pen?




You rarely die in your dreams, whenever you do ,it indicates that you have started something new in your life.

Depressed people tend to see this type of dream often. It is common to have such a nightmare once in a while for everyone. Dying in your dream does not mean you have started something new in your life. Rather, most of the people get this dream, when they are unhappy in their life.

What does your last dream indicate?

 


The internet trolls are narcissistic, psychopathetic, and sadistic

Not everyone is suffering from mental disorder. The internet trolls are here to make others happy. They share their jokes/memes , their sarcasm and entertain others. We can find narcissistic, psychopathic and sadistic people anywhere . It is not specifically tagged to the internet trolls.

What do you think about the personality of the internet trolls?

 

Convincing yourself you slept well, will trick your brain into thinking it did.

You can try to be optimistic and not overthink of not getting enough sleep earlier night. But, convincing yourself you slept well will not be good for your health. Doing this every now and then, will have bad impact on your health conditions. Not getting enough sleep can affect your focus/concentration levels.

What trick do you use to convince your brain you slept well?

 

The maximum time a women can keep secret is 47 hours and 15 minutes.

Totally, disagree. The person who keeps the secret for a longer time has nothing to do with gender. It all depends upon the personality behavior. It can even depend on whether the secret is a threat and it needs to be shared with someone or not.

How long did you keep a secret with you?

 

Share your answers to the above 5 questions in the comment of this post.
Let’s have fun in seeing different responses.
I will be happy to read the psychology facts you heard till date. You can write about it in the comment.

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https://thepsychologicalworld.com/different-life-of-siblings/

 

 

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