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Chapter 2

PREVIOUS SERIES CONTENT:
OCD Is Not A Joke!
Chapter 1

 

As per Indian tradition in the early morning , women put rangoli in front of the house. Rangoli is an art form that is meant to produce positive energy for the home. The same tradition is being followed by my mother.

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A tradition turned into a nightmare. One of the ocd type is Scrupulousity OCD. Scrupulousity OCD involves deep religious thoughts. There is a fear of doing any mistake that will make the person angry their respective God/Goddess.  It disrupts their mind when anyone goes against their ritual methods. Even the Pandits, Father or any superior person of religion will not agree with this person’s rituals. Such people will keep doing different remedies of overcoming sins repeatedly. In Hindu, there are long duration of different pujas and havans. So, the person will keep doing such puja havans every now and then. This person will not pray to God without taking bath. Even if the bath is already taken but the visit to temple or prayer to God is after few hours then the person will once again take bath prior to it. Similarly, christain person may repeatedly visit the confession room. In Muslim, while washing hands before the prayer, the person will wash his/her hands multiple times to feel the purity.
These people have strong belief in black magic. There is a fear of people doing black magic for which they find ways to protect themselves from black magic. Person with Scruplousity OCD will love preaching about God and religion to others. They want everyone to believe in their principles ,their thoughts, their rituals and follow the same.
Normally, only on occasions big rangolis or colourful rangolis are made.
But in my family, my mother started making big rangoli as compulsion for daily routine. Normal people clean the area by sweeping or they just use some cloth to wipe off the floor. Following it, they  make simple and small or border rangolis. My mother used to do same.

How the repetation and behavior changed?

The next step, she did is that she made me put big rangoli for complete month on every festival. Indians have so many festivals by which one can know the number of days of we designing rangoli are higher. Then she changed to putting big rangoli daily.
Alongside, her rule was sweeping and mopping only one time before putting rangoli.
Then during festival months,   (sweeping , mopping and put rangoli) twice a day.
The next thing , she started hallucinating that neighbour is doing some black magic.
She imagined ,neigbour drops Kumkum -a red powder or Angar- a grey powder on rangoli. Then she thought someone coming in front of our door daily from neighbour’s house and doing black magic. This is completely her hallucination.

How it got mixed with OCD?

She started cleaning front door and front place with dry cloth then wet cloth. She swept and mopped floor before rangoli. She changed timings of a day of putting rangoli so that neigbour don’t do black magic. It was all in her mind but she made real rules based on her beliefs. Then she forced us to create a window in the passage which is closer to the neighbour window.

Next level is this :

She sweeps the floor then mops the small floor 10 times and then cleans the beside little stone bench and door then mops the floor again . Then she cleans window with dry cloth then with wet cloth. Then she mops floor. Once again, she sprinkles water on the floor and wipes the floor with another cloth. Overall, total 4 clothes and sweeping rod , mop rod, and a bucket full of water only for this small matter.
She does not take bucket used for cleaning inside house . Because, she thinks goddess will enter house. Hence, dirt should not come inside. Therefore, the bucket should be taken inside home later after hours. You may have got confuzzled with this stanza of repeatative tasks. Imagine the same lines are actually acted in real, the amount of stress that goes around in doing the same task excess of time.
Since , Rangoli is a form of art ,  one could take this task positively and do it daily but the amount of stress involved with the Scruplousity OCD is unbearable. We have to avoid neighbour contact and if neigbour step out then she will think that they did black magic . Even if they don’t step out , she will still assume same because of her hallucination.

As previously explained, there is a fear of what will god or goddess do.
For example, she makes it compulsion to  draw shree symbol in rangoli without fail.
Moreover, throughout the process of rangoli, she is panicked and in  angry mood. Hence, anything going wrong triggers  her to create a worse day for all . All these beliefs increased the hallucination and she decided to leave this place to get rid of neigbour ‘s black magic(unreal thing. ) My mother has done unbearable dramas at home for this simple things. Her mind does not accept breakage in this repeation process and anyone against her such hallucinated beliefs. This thing has broken the relationship with good neigbour. We can’t face them or talk to them because she has restricted us. If we do so, then she will create an unforgettable trauma for all.

Please note, this post has no intention of saying anything against any religions. It is based on the sources, that explain how it can involve different religions. It is more about the OCD person and less about a religion. It only shows how a strong abnormal belief reaches higher than normal belief of god or goddess and supernatural things.

Know the things:

There is a need to take precautions. Don’t take the pattern changes of your loved ones lightly because with the development of symptoms , things get uncontrollable. It will lead to inviting more mental disorder symptoms. Each task is repeated multiple times. The person does not do  the work all alone  but asks some family members to do it. Please note that the ocd person does not enjoy doing such stress work. This stress work also affects their emotions and they feel frustrated to do it and at the same time avoiding work will give them a breakdown. This drains energy, valuable time for all family members and acts as an obstacle for other work or self time. Doing unnecessary work daily turns into an unavoidable stress for everyone. Because of one person’s mental imbalance, other family memebers eventually get mentally affected.

Society does not accept such levels of OCD. My neighbours make fun of us . When I tried explaining them first time about her other mental disorder . They denied to accept the term, mental disorder and said, “Your mother is a weird person.”.

We can’t tell every outsider, what mental disorder is!
We can only try our best to aware the world about mental health through different mediums.

To conclude, if we have symptoms then we should accept and meet doctors for the diagnose and respective treatment. In the same way, we should be understanding towards our family member’s any mental disorder and insist them to take the treatment.

Tip :
“Believe in whatever you want, but know the fine line of balancing your belief.”

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OCD Is Not A Joke!

Chapter 1

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Chapter 1

OCD Series: Chapter 1

Through this real story, you will understand why OCD (Obsessive-compulsive disorder) cannot be treated as a JOKE for everyone.

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Introducing my mother who has two types of OCD.
Neither she takes the treatment nor do my family agree to give her treatment. My father and sister never agreed to give her treatment. Over years, I tried convincing her parents and siblings, even they denied giving any help .No one in my family agreed to opt for her treatment because they thought what will society say if they come to know about her. On another hand, her behavior became a problem for the society itself and yet father and sister did not wanted to take any responsibility. I once went with her to a doctor wherein she did not know her mental check up will also be done. We went for mild health check up and doctor said she does have mental disorders.
In the OCD series, I will not talk about her other mental disorders.
I will explain the experiences of living with a OCD person . In what way, people living with OCD person as well as the OCD person should take the responsibility of curing. Additionally, this is not only a single person OCD symptoms. There are many people out there who seem to have similar behaviour.

The Normal Day:

1] Where ever we stay: a bungalow or an apartment, the front yard of the house or the front passage of the flat needs to be cleaned daily. Even if the place is already cleaned, sweepping then mopping is done early morning around 6a.m. or prior to it. The doors are again cleaned with dry and wet clothes. Throughout the day: if anyone visits home, we go outside and come back, any random person walking in the passage or a courier person or any one else steps in the front passage, then those many times the front yard is cleaned. At the end of day, again in evening the sweeping is done compulsory.
She does not do it all alone always. Sometimes she does it by herself and sometimes she orders me to do it. We cannot avoid this task. Because the consequences of ignoring her orders are not good. She can get very emotional and hurt. She may get violent and have a heated conversation with all the bad words. This simple thing can change into one of the bad days.

One needs to know how to behave with a patient. Although people don’t really use the word patient for the person who has OCD. It is important for everyone to understand the person with any mental disorder and behave with them carefully.

This is the difference between a normal person reaction and the OCD person. The motive is to achieve their task of cleaning and if it undone then it does not give them a peace of mind.

The pattern of doing such an unnecessary task  every day without fail can become an obstacle in other work or for other family members.

It may sound a simple thing but when put into an action 365 days for more than decades, that would mean wasting time.

Cleaning front passage is acceptable :

  • When it is dirty.
  • When there is any occasion and you want everything to look fresh.
  • Once in a day . At the most, twice a day.

Anything that goes beyond limit, needs an attention.

The OCD patient should learn the methods of listening to others especially the ones who love you.

Other people should not take the pattern of OCD person lightly. The earlier the treatment or counselling to change the daily habits, the easier it is to live the life for all.
Only one point [1] of Normal Day has been discussed in this chapter. The next points describing Normal Day will be added in the next chapter.

Have a great day 😊

Tip : “Stay clean, but don’t forget to enjoy. “

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OCD Is Not A Joke!

Chapter 2

OCD Is Not A Joke!

_OCD IS NOT A JOKE !_

Introduction

 

“OCD” is not a joke.
OCD (Obsessive-compulsive disorder) is one of the common jokes heard around the couples and friends. It is quite annoying to see the people using the term OCD without knowing its in- depth definition. It is annoying for the people who live every day with a real OCD person. Annoying is not an offensive expression here. It is the level of frustration people go through while living with the OCD member and come across the funny jokes on it.

It is not how it is shown in the entertainment shows. It is not how the jokes are passed. In Friends series, there is a character namely Monica, who has the habit of cleaning house. It looks funny for the audience.
But, it is not funny when the same thing happens in the real life.

In celebrity interviews, many couples tell about their partner having OCD. She/he likes the house to be kept clean. She/he wants the pillow to be in right positions usually. There are laughs and jokes around such small things. Whereas in reality, that partner is clumsy and not really OCD.
In social media posts, we see people often crack jokes of OCD.

There is nothing wrong in having a sense of humor. Even some OCD people would joke about themselves. On the other hand, people are living a dysfunction family life because of a OCD family member.

The truth is OCD is never a joke about just someone who want things to be neat and clean. OCD person will not be happy over servants/maids doing all the job.
OCD person creates a stressful atmosphere for the whole family. Doctors believe it is difficult for the patient to live with OCD. But, the truth is , it is very difficult for others living with a OCD person. A person who has OCD will make everyone follow their rules. Anyone going against the rules, will have to face a terrible drama. By the term drama, it is not funny again. It is a set of exhausting arguments or one can even face a physical harm.

Are all OCD people harmful? Is it difficult for everyone to live with OCD patient? Do we even use the word patient for them?

Every mental disorder has stages. The symptoms develop slowly. In the similar way, OCD habits get multiplied slowly. Once it reaches higher stage, the rate of developing OCD habits increments faster. Therefore, every OCD person’s behaviour is different from each other. Some have minor habits throughout life while some have continuous formation of different habits every day.

 

OCD is a mental disorder. It makes the person perform the same work repeatedly, rethink the same thought repeatedly, and always live in doubts. Such people are not only obsessed with thoughts and work but also with another person, pet or a religious thoughts and actions.
There are around 10 or more OCD types. This disorder has also the possibility of relating to another mental disorder.

Should OCD person feel bad for being a trouble to others ? Not at all. Majority of OCD people will not realize their habits troubling others. In other way, the best method is to take the treatment and counselling. OCD can be controlled completely at the earliest. One can take the treatment, counselling and follow up certain mental health programs in order to cure from it. On the contrary, some of the psychologist/psychiatrist don’t seem to take OCD disorder seriously. They just diagnose and do not insist the treatment or any changes. Hence, the major steps should be taken by the patient and the doctor to find the methods of getting rid from OCD disorder.

In this OCD series, we will see different types, symptoms, habits, experiences, daily routine life, and how it affects other members of family/friends.

 

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